Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy

in Bellingham, Washington

I specialize in helping couples move from reactivity, painful repetitive cycles, and disconnection into secure, emotionally responsive partnership.

Many of the couples I work with are thoughtful, caring, and deeply committed to growth. They understand their histories and patterns — yet find themselves stuck in the same painful dynamics over and over again. Insight alone is often not enough. In our work together, we create new emotional experiences that shift those patterns at their roots.

I specialize in:

• Improving communication and interrupting recurring conflict

• Ending motional disconnection and loss of intimacy

• Affair recovery and rebuilding trust

• Transforming long-standing reactive cycles

• Improving sexual and physical intimacy

• Pre-marital therapy (I am also a PREPARE/ENRICH facilitator, a structured approach to preparing for marriage)

• Pre-baby counseling and the transition to parenthood

• Pregnancy, infertility, and adoption journeys; and deciding whether or not to have children

I am one of few ICEEFT certified Emotionally Focused Couples Therapists in Western Washington and also trained in the Gottman Method. My work is grounded in Emotionally Focused Therapy, relational mindfulness, and embodiment-based approaches. This means we focus not just on what you think about each other, but on how emotion and attachment live in your nervous systems — and how those patterns show up in real time between you.

I warmly welcome LGBTIQ+ and queer individuals and couples, and work with a range of relationship structures including polyamorous, open, and ethically non-monogamous relationships.

Sessions are collaborative, experiential, and paced with care. We slow down moments of conflict so you can understand what is happening beneath the surface — the fear, longing, hurt, or protection driving the cycle — and practice new ways of reaching for one another.

I bring a socio-cultural lens to this work, recognizing that our relationships exist within broader systems — and that gender, identity, culture, family of origin, and lived experience shape how we attach, protect, express (or don’t show) emotions, and reach for one another.

I also frequently work with couples where one or both partners are therapists or healing professionals, offering a space that is emotionally deep and effective.

This is depth work - leading to transformative change.

If you are ready to move beyond repeating patterns and into a more secure, connected partnership, I invite you to reach out for a free consultation to see if we’d be a good fit to work together.

If either or both of you are uncertain about continuing in your relationship - I also offer discernment counseling for couples.